transparency

I just want to take a minute and admire something about my husband. He is incredible. I just want to say that he is the most transparent person I have ever encountered, nay, more transparent than I ever thought human beings were capable of. Honestly. And he is so without intention or deliberation or inhibition or self-consciousness. It is most definitely a gift. Of course, every gift has a flip-side however minor it may be. Sometimes he will unknowingly blurt out something that is embarrassing to me, himself, or maybe the person whom he is speaking to. I turn pink, and later I make it clear that I don’t like being embarrassed. :) However, even if the person is caught off-guard, they don’t mind. I think the reason is that they know they’re seeing the complete, unashamed, laid bare soul of another person. And that is rare. So very, very rare. If you know Chris then you know how much people absolutely adore him. You probably do too, because his heart seems so honest, so reflective of our Maker’s heart, that we want more. We want more of that glimpse into the Lord’s eyes that we see in my husband.

I was reading his blog the other day (see blogroll for link), and I was so not surprised by his entries. I don’t mean that his writing is boring–it isn’t. I just mean that he’d already told me, discussed with me everything that is on his heart- the same heart that he shares with you and the world on his blog. He can’t help but be himself, whether it’s his wife or anyone! And I realized that I knew what he would write about because he doesn’t hold back. I think sometimes (when I am busy deluding myself) that I am so mysterious, because I don’t share all of my heart with people, but the reality is that I am guarded. Much more than I think is necessary, much more than I would like.

I am so thankful that God has given me a husband that inspires me to be a better person–a person more like the God that brought us together.

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    lindsay page said,

    Abbi- I am more like you..I am guarded..to the point that it is too much, sometimes…where does that come from? pride? being hurt one too many times?..I think about it occasionally..it takes me a long time to let someone in..That is a wonderful quality in Chris…Great entry!

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    abbimarie said,

    Thank you! I think it’s a little bit of a lot of things that shape that guarded-ness in us. I think my psych background makes me want to figure it out, but the truth is, things like this are reciprocal relationships, you know? This event triggers that reaction, then that reaction triggers the next event. It’s like qualities like this need to be delicately unwoven from our hearts- like a tangled necklace. Jesus’ hands are the only ones gentle enough to do it (and of course, his view of the problem is probably the clearest ;) )….i’m just glad he’s still working on me, you know? Thanks for following my blog, girly! Hey- have you had that baby yet? :)

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    Chris R said,

    I love you very much!

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    Chris R said,

    Hi baby


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